Interabled Newlyweds Address Hurtful Comments After Getting Married

interabled couple address hurtful comments after getting married
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Shane Burcaw and Hannah Aylward are the stars of the YouTube channel “Squirmy and Grubs” which has garnered almost 800,000 subscribers. The couple recently got married at the beginning of this month, but not everyone has been supportive of it. This is because they are an interabled couple.

“If the past two years of having a YouTube channel have taught me anything, it’s that you’re never going to be able to educate everyone,” Hannah writes on Instagram. “No matter what you do, some people will just never come around.” The caption joined a photo of their backyard wedding on September 4th in Minneapolis.

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Interabled couple Shane Burcaw and Hannah Alyward address hurtful comments following their wedding

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If the past two years of having a YouTube channel have taught me anything, it’s that you’re never going to be able to educate everyone. No matter what you do, some people will just never come around. Worrying about these people’s opinions is a waste of time, and as time has gone on, it’s become so much easier to genuinely have no internal reaction to comments like these. A few years ago, reading words like these was painful. For a while, I held onto the idea that once Shane and I were married, all the people doubting our relationship would realize it was real. Now, of course, I’m not that naive. Although it’s taken time, I’m able to completely dismiss people like this. Shane and I continue to make content and share our story with the hopes of showing as many people as we can that disabled people are worthy partners. Comments like these only encourage us to continue! We’re so grateful for all of the people that our story has managed to reach in a positive way.

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The photo of the two had an overlay of hurtful comments from people on their Instagram account. “A few years ago, reading words like these was painful. For a while, I held onto the idea that once Shane and I were married, all the people doubting our relationship would realize it was real,” Hannah writes in the caption.

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Shane and I get a lot of questions from people asking our opinion on various words that are used to refer to disabled people. Two of the most common ones we get asked about are “special needs” and “differently abled.” Like many other disability activists, we see these words as trying to make disability more palatable. They skirt around the word, framing it more “positively,” as if the word “disability” is a bad one.⁣ ⁣ Our society never fails to frame disability negatively, and it translates into the words we use. The term “wheelchair bound” is a great example of how society has taken a great device that allows millions of people to move around, and turned it into a bad thing by attaching the word “bound” to it. There are countless more phrases and words like this one, so Shane and I just posted a video trying to address some of them! If you’ve ever wondered what the origin of the word “handicap” is, or whether or not Shane thinks he has “overcome” his disability, this video is for you! The link is in my bio.

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She continues, “Now, of course, I’m not that naive. Although it’s taken time, I’m able to completely dismiss people like this. Shane and I continue to make content and share our story with the hopes of showing as many people as we can that disabled people are worthy partners. Comments like these only encourage us to continue! We’re so grateful for all of the people that our story has managed to reach in a positive way.”

Despite any hurtful comments, the couple maintains a strong and loving relationship

Shane has spinal muscular atrophy, which is a genetic disorder that causes wasting in his muscles. He has used a wheelchair since he was two years old. Their YouTube videos highlight what it’s like to be in a relationship where one person has a disability and the other does not. Of course, such a relationship has been met with a lot of questions and comments, not many of them being so positive.

“Is he rich or something?” one commenter says. Another writes, “This is some kind of joke.” A third commenter writes, “But for real though… does she also have another partner for having sex with?” Along with many other hurtful comments. Despite anything, the couple has managed to put the painful comments behind them and come out stronger and happier in their relationship. Congratulations to the happy couple! Check out one of their videos below.

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